Dear Annie:

Welcome back, but I wish you were back feeling better! A year ago, on July  12-13, 2020, you shared on the same topic. You were then 28 (now 29) and your sister was 20 (now 21). The two of you were living in the same room, but not only did you not have a close relationship with her, you also felt that she didn’t like you.

You shared that your parents gave you a lot of attention for as long as you were the only child. But when you were 8, and your sister was born, both parents favored her over you, and “showered her with more attention and love”. You shared that the relationship between your mother and sister was “so close”, and you added: “I feel I won’t ever have that closeness and it’s killing me”.

Fast forward a year, I assume that you still share a room with your much younger sister (?), and not surprising to me: you still feel that your parents are favoring your younger sister over you, by insisting on bothering you, the un-favored older daughter, with their requests for help, so to not bother their favorite daughter, your sister. At this point, you’ve been feeling unfavored for 21 years.

Am I correct in my understanding?

anita