Dear Michelle:

You shared that there were “some very bad aspects” to the relationship between your father and you. My thoughts in regard to that and the rest of your original post: very bad aspects of the way a father treats his daughter do not get undone when the father is dying, or is dead.

The love of a daughter for her father goes into hiding when he mistreats her, but it does not disappear. She hates him and loves him and she feels guilty for hating him.. because she still loves him underneath the hate.

You asked: “How to cope and recognize good and bad emotions.. Where do I go from here”?

Would you like to share about the nature of your good (love perhaps) and bad (anger guilt perhaps) emotions?

anita