Dear Jisoo:

It seems to me that he may see you as an intimate female friend, not as a girlfriend, and that he is interested in continuing the 5-month intimate friendship, and that he is not interested in a romantic, monogamous relationship with you.

I don’t know why he tolerates the fights and why he “bears all mood swings (they are really really bad)”.

Like you stated, “He meets other women , also has some friends with benefits in the city he is staying”, and he is busy with other women outside his office hours, in the evenings and weekends (“he is only available in his office hours and not evenings/weekends”).

“Should I stay or move on“- move on from your hopes to have a romantic, monogamous relationship with him. If you can give up such hope while still maintaining a close, long-distance friendship with him (it will be difficult, maybe impossible)- then stay with him, as a long-distance friend.

If you can’t give up such hope while maintaining contact with him- then… move on, best you can!

* I was wondering: did he explain to you why he is completely unavailability after office hours, in the evenings and weekends? And why he didn’t give you his last name for so long?

anita