Hi Anita,  I am highly confused. If its only for a hook up, I would have known a long time ago.. basically because most guys tag women along only for sex though not interested.  But this person has never been indecent or crossed limits though we were very close emotionally at some point. He did try to talk intimate but stepped back when I was unresponsive.  And we are always long distance,  what use of bearing these fights for a hookup once in 5 months, when he visits . I don’t understand him. He is calm when I shout, calm when I rejected his advances, calm always and willing to be in touch no matter what. I don’t know if I am the dumb idiot for feeling that he does put effort to continue this. Quiet unpredictable.  In this materialistic world,I don’t understand why would someone be therr for a person expecting nothing in return.  I don’t understand his motivation.  It might take some time for me to move on or not hope for love. But its not a regular thing to find some one who cares for us without expecting anything… except for parents.  That’s my dilemma.