Hi Teak,

Thanks for putting out the apt summary for my issue. Well, it could be any of the reasons you pointed out, he clearly knows what game he is playing and very well understood my concerns on how it effected my mental state. I backed out of romantic association citing the very same reason. i know his friends, colleagues and his family/home here. He is not married for sure, i wouldn’t even consider talking to him if he was. Like you said, yeah his personal life is still a mystery to me because he behaves same when he is in our home town too. He shares his work, investments, client details etc, taken me to visit his new home in his last visit. We met several times in public places and he doesn’t have any issue meeting anywhere [kind of not hiding]

Like you said his intentions were not as sincere as mine.  I am not much into dating scenario and its really hard to read new people. This person has just lost his own brother and in the initial stages of our meeting,i feared asking any personal topics. Coming to caring, guidance and being supportive to me , he is same as my other close girl friends.  I have a good friend circle who have been my constant support after the tragedy in my life. The only difference being i may have tried to fill the void created by my partner with this person.

yes he ticks all the green flags of a normal healthy relationship/meets all love languages [if u consider only 1 view i.e everything on his terms]  he did want to meet my parents too ..all as a friend, nothing more.  So may be he is not a scam but may be i give him an ego boost, may be ..that is why he wants to keep me in touch.

Thank you very much for putting out a different dimension to this story. I am yet to learn about people who play mind games/manipulative.  We rarely talk these days and i want to cut it down completely. So looked for help in this website 🙂 in case i am loosing a good friend. My offline friends are as confused as me with this unpredictable behavior.

Thanks much Anita and Teak 🙂