Hi Teak, agreed that I did nag him a lot but that started after his disappearing acts and more over its after 2 months after our first meeting.  I did notice his pattern of vanishing but never confronted in the initial months. He was available from 11 am to 9 pm my time. He lives 3 hours behind my time zone. So he leaves office at 6 pm his time and switches off the phone. I can never reach him on my own. He is the one who initiates and ends our contact timings.  At the same time, he was very demanding of my time when he is available..  calling multiple times if I don’t pick up.. constantly texting. It was nice to me initially but slowly my work time, cooking time, kid time ..everything got replaced by him. My me time is completely gone. Then I started putting boundaries and as well started demanding his private time. Questions on who he lives with, why can’t he remember me after going home etc. He never replied properly nor his contact timings changed.  Then my nagging started. I did share lot of my personal frustrations too but for that he would response positively,  calm me and make me happy. I could have walked away but I have my own selfish reasons.. apart from that .. he usually does what I ask for,  after repeated fights or if I stop talking. Most of the time he made me feel that he is putting effort to not loose me.  But I don’t have energy to fight, so let things take their course