Hi Anita, you are confusing me 🙂 I and my siblings were disturbed as kids when they fought but it didn’t effect us much. I don’t know what kind of attachment it is.  Only after I started staying together  with parents after my loss.. that I started analyzing why they fight and it also effected me a lot ..since I couldn’t understand  why they can’t appreciate the presence of a spouse when their own kid is mouring her spouse right in front of them.                                         Regarding my marriage,  yes it was a secure love  marriage,  my husband  was my super hero.  It was not the perfect marriage .