Dear Akansha:

You are welcome. And I hope that you recover from this long ordeal and learn all you can from what happened.

“I struggle to accept that someone who was so sensitive and vulnerable suddenly became rude and closed. I do have a role in that but I surely did not deserve the disrespect and back and forth“-

– Of course you did not deserve his disrespect and back and forth!

– What comes to my mind as I read your description of him as “so sensitive and vulnerable” is that maybe you confused his (at times) clingy behavior with sensitive and loving behavior:

When he was anxious and desperate-  he reached out to you in ways that appeared sensitive and loving. When he was calm and content, he no longer appeared sensitive and loving. He was rude and closed.

In other words, he has not been a loving man to you overall: he appeared loving when he needed  you/ when he was anxious and desperate. If he really loved you, he would have been sensitive and loving to you when he was anxious and desperate and when he was calm and content.

What do you think?

anita