Dear Akansha:

You wrote yesterday: “When I was younger, I used to forget to take care of myself, I wanted to be liked by everyone. It was a horrible time“-

I don’t think you shared anything about the horrible time you experienced when you were younger (as a child?) other than mentioning it here. The topic of discussion so far in your thread has been: The Guy.

But what about The Girl Akansha?

Here is something you shared about him, something I almost randomly located just now: “He did tell me…  that he thinks there is no one as kind, forgiving and wonderful as me. He said he thinks I am close to Jesus as a spiritual being and I am the most important person in his life. To be fair, he also had just asked me if I would allow him to have phone sex with a girl he met on Facebook. It was quite confusing“-

– that he asked you about phone sex, that reveals something about him (The Guy). When he told you that you are wonderful, close to Jesus, and the most important person in his life– I think that it made you feel so good to hear say these things to you,  that you ignored and tolerated a lot of the other things he said and did. This reveals something about you (The Girl): that you had a strong craving from an early age, for a parent/ caretaker to think of you and see you as someone Wonderful and Important, someone to acknowledge, value and appreciate, someone to look up to (?)

anita