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AnonymousDear caroline1234:
Congratulations for managing to stop lying! The purpose of guilt is to motivate us to correct wrong behavior. You corrected your practice of lying, and so- the purpose of your guilt was served.
“I just feel like he deserves someone who doesn’t have a history of lying“- I hope that he deserves someone who doesn’t lie now and in the future. As your boyfriend, he can claim part of you (your attention, your caring, your honesty) for as long as you are together, but he doesn’t have a right to claim your past, and to judge you for past behavior that you no longer practice.
“Now I think about breaking up with him because yeah I am 100% sure that he deserves better“- how can you.. see to it that he gets better: will you help him choose a .. better girlfriend?
anita
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