Dear Dee:

“I love so deeply and I hate seeing the people I care about hurting or struggling… feeling down, worried, stressed, scared, confused… I don’t want to be selfish and not be involved in their struggles“-

– it reads like what you need is to withdraw from your involvement in the struggles of your loved ones because being involved is too taxing, too distressing and exhausting for you, and therefore- not good for your health.

Maybe your loved-ones will be okay with you withdrawing..  even feeling better about you doing what’s right for you, taking care of yourself (which is not selfish when it’s.. necessary for your own health)?

anita