Dear DC:

You are very welcome. Your kindness is rare and much appreciated!

“I do find myself making excuses for her inappropriate behaviour – just because… she is my mother. If she were someone’s mother, it would be so much easier to cut through the noise“-

– the noise I know said to me that I am a bad girl/ person for being angry at the woman who hated me. The noise said that I must love the woman who hated me. The noise said that the woman who hated me .. didn’t really hate me, that she loved me after all, that all mothers love their children.. all mothers are Good, and if they hate their children than it must be because their children are Bad.

“No one wants to think ill of their mother, however one needs to confront reality or, in this case, have reality presented to them. This is after decades! So, thank you so much Anita“- you are welcome.

“You have left me so much to ponder and work on. And I am very grateful – for your care, concern and help. Why do you do this Anita? Why do you go into these forums and put in so much effort, time to help people like me?“-

– Because to me, on the other side of my computer screen I can almost see you: you are a real person, flesh and blood, thinking, feeling.. just like me. I know how you feel when you feel hope or sadness..  pain. You are just like me, so when I am helping you- I am helping myself, no difference. In yet other words: you are important, there is no person in the world who is more important than you. You matter, your experience of life matters no less than mine. You are therefore worthy of my effort and time.

“I am curious as there are very few gracious people like you on this planet“- this is so kind of you to say and..  it is true about yourself, isn’t it.

anita