Dear Anna:

I want to correct something I wrote to you in my last post: “You are..  listening to someone who is similar to her: never happy with his life.. and never happy with you being part of his life“- it’s not that he was NEVER happy with his life or with you being in his life. At times he was very happy with you being in his life, and those times were the BEST times for you.. but those times were short and too far in between: the times in between, when he was unhappy.. those times felt like forever.. (haven’t they?)

I think this is a re-enactment of your childhood experience with your mother: at times she was happy with you (maybe you forgot those times), but those times were short and in between there was a FOREVER in-between. The draw of those short times, the attraction to those short times is intense.. At least, this has been my experience, in my own life.

anita