Dear Michelle:

You are welcome. In your most recent post, you shared that he likely suffers from a mild case of OCPD (Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder) and from OCD tendencies, but a long-term, live-in relationship is likely nonetheless, that there is no abuse in the relationship, that he is trying little by little, that when he expresses disappointment in you, you remind him that he should clearly tell you what he expects from you. You shared that you have grown a lot within this relationship, that you have faith in it, and that you believe that eventually he will be willing and able to live with you.

“I have often felt my beliefs were delusional, because some were based on feelings and not rational thought, but sometimes feelings are rational idea with the lack of current evidence to back them up“- you are saying then that your faith in the relationship is rational even though you don’t yet have evidence that it is.

“Everything just feels calmer and more settled now and these posts don’t require the same dissection as they once did“- no dissection today then! You are welcome to post again anytime you feel the need. It will help me greatly if in future posts, you will state (best you can): what specifically it is that you need from me/ other members who choose to reply. I wish you and your boyfriend a Happy New Year and a better year ahead!

anita