Dear Francis:

“Is this Friendship salvageable?“- I don’t think so, not as long as the two of you are in the military, particularly in the same unit.

“Thing is, I am hurt…a side of me is thinking of trying to talk to her in a sense of good closure, for us to end in good terms… which is why I am here asking on advice for this“-

– I don’t think that it is a good idea to initiate a conversation with her, for closure or for any other reason. I think that the best closure you can get is by really, really giving up on resuming a friendship with her.

I understand that “it’s just so hard being alone during military training“, and that you liked her very much, but I don’t think the friendship you had with her is possible to resume in the current context, and further pursuing it in any way can only backfire against you.

I personally know of military people who were very lonely during service, and I wish you were not as lonely as you’ve been so far. I hope things get better for you, and you are welcome to post again anytime!

anita

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