Dear anita,

Thank you again for your reply.

Concerning my ex, I do admit I had yet to get to know him well so that could definitely be his style, I definitely don’t exclude that as an option. But I do not think he broke up with me because of what that dinner date showed him. (1) He was the one who proposed it and (2) we split the bill. We always have, since I do enjoy paying my own share of every date/outing I have, I don’t usually enjoy having people pay for me.

I could have also confused my longing for his! I have thought about that too, so I have a difficult time describing it. Maybe “longing” isn’t the right word to describe it. To put it more simple, I can say that before that date his kisses were more on the soft and gentle side, whereas after that dinner date they were more insistent.

Regarding my colleague: I have definitely thought of asking him and it is indeed the action that makes most sense in this situation. I am certain he doesn’t have a girlfriend but you are right, I shouldn’t judge by signs, given I do prefer when people are straightforward with me.

Malakai