Hi Mary,

In situations like these I often wonder, what was that person doing before they met you? How is it that Amanda has all the time in the world to text and talk to you and not feel like she is neglecting whatever was in her life before you recently met? To me it is a red flag, as there are some people who just become emotional vacuums and suck others dry. She sounds like she has a void to fill, whereas you don’t really. You have a full life with friends and a boyfriend, and making good choices for your health. This relationship sounds intense, yet it is still new. There is still time to set the dynamic in place. It may feel difficult, but you don’t owe her more than you can give. Keep your boundaries firm, and if she is meant to be a true friend, she will adjust to them.