Dear Kmittens:

“I spent all of my 20s with my best friend and who I thought was my soul mate. We were together 10 years. We were engaged and due to travel the world together... Will I ever stop feeling the pain of losing him and why is it still raw after a year has passed?”-

– My best guess at the answer is that (1) You spent a lot of time with him, for ten years, starting at the early age of 20, an age when young women are into love and romance, (2) Even though there were fights and silent treatments etc., all along, at times, you felt and imagined that he was your best friend and soul mate. Fast forward, a year after the breakup, and you are still feeling the pain of losing not the man that he was and is, but whom you imagined or wished that he was(?)

anita