Dear June:

“Normally we meet about 2 times a week, mid and weekends together. When we meet… He’s very attentive…  but when we part, he’s back to cold again” – notice this: when you part, it’s not necessarily that he feels cold toward you. He may simply be busy with life. What is certain is that you feel cold when you part.

When a strong attachment figure leaves, even temporarily, it feels cold.

“This week he seems really busy, he doesn’t even want to meet twice, and his messages was totally dry. But one night I saw he was online again in dating app; I don’t know if he opened it by mistakes… or purposely being active again” – it is possible that he was too busy with life and needed to distract himself for a moment. Seeing what’s happening on his dating app, who messaged him etc., is a fast and easy distraction, and it can be fun for a moment, nothing more to it.

“We’ve been together a lot for the past 2 months; I think he should know or at least to talk it out where is the relationship is going. (wish me bravery to ask! lol)” – when you talk to him on the topic,  look into his eyes, keep your tone of voice and facial expressions gentle, a little smile perhaps. This way he is more likely to feel comfortable talking on the topic. And I do wish you bravery!

anita

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