Hi Bee

Thank you for sharing some more context! This is a good example of why context is important.

I’m glad that you did have some good times together. Your explanation does make sense. It think it’s very kind of you to have such empathy for someone that also hurt you.

I will point out that neither depression or Asperger’s make people verbally abusive. That is down to personality. Some of the things he said and did go beyond being blunt or a little rude.

As much as what he was trying to teach you what he learned in therapy, he still had a lot to learn himself.

It seems like you’ve taken the best of what you can from that experience, which is a healthy mindset.

I think it’s fair to say that neither of you were perfect, there were unhealthy elements on both sides. You were two young people with your own individual issues which weren’t exactly compatible.

Your growth and maturity are commendable Bee. You are not the same person you were back then. You should be very proud of how much you have achieved!

I would hope that your ex has grown and matured since then too. We all make mistakes, especially when we are young.

• This reply was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by Helcat.