Hello Anita!

How is it in life that we only receive so many realizations out of heartbreak…

I am sad to hear about your situation with your parents. My parents never spoke ill of each other, at least… I agree with you that I had seen my mother’s trauma and adopted it as my own.

I’m going to talk to my ex boyfriend tomorrow, and I plan on telling him some of my realizations about myself. I hope he can see that I intend to learn and grow from this experience. Although I miss him very much, on every level, I have to accept that for right now I can’t give him what he needs, and I’m not sure he can give me what I need. It’s a difficult lesson in life… I hope someday we can be together, or rather, with the person that’s meant for us.

Thank you Anita and Tommy for your thoughtful responses!