Dear StoutHeartedMen:

“Thank you so much for the kind words… !! It made me so happy. And the compliment about my writing was so nice that I felt overcome with good feelings!”-

You are very welcome! As you go about your online dating experience on OkCupid (and otherwise in life), when you receive a positive response from a dating prospect, maybe an enthusiastic response, and you feel … so happy and overcome with good feelings- enjoy it for a little while and then moderate these feelings: come down from the emotional high just enough to feel good but not too good. This practice will lower the impact of the Fall when you get disappointed. Disappointments are part of the dating experience, often a big part of it, so better be prepared. I don’t have the statistics, so the following is only a guess: out of 20 dating candidates with whom you will be communicating for a while, 1 will not disappoint you.

“I am glad to have received the clarity, courage, and direction to do so by reading your ideas… will continue to explore and post when I feel so moved” – I am here, StoutHeartedMen, anytime!

anita