Dear Lola:

You are welcome. If I can help just a bit in some way, that’s good enough for me.

“At the time he made this confession, he also proceeded to joke about killing one of our guests and to let him know if there is anyone I wouldn’t miss. He then proceeded to list the people that he wouldn’t let die… He was always quite obsessed with (American Psycho) and it was him who gave it to me to read“- reads to me that he is fascinating with thoughts and images of killing people and/ or watching people die. I guess he fantasizes a lot about it. I wonder if he is in the habit of watching violent movies that depict people dying. I also wonder how he treats animals, if he ever hurt animals and watched them die.

“Moving forward with the rest of my family, I’m not sure what to do…. The family core has always felt very much like me, him and our parents and the other two brothers are outliers…. She thinks we will get over it and go back to the way we were but I don’t know how to explain that that isn’t possible“- it just occurred to me to ask, what is his relationships with his/ your parents, any anger that he has toward them, or had as a child, feelings of powerlessness growing up?

anita