Dear anonymous:

“If I KNOW that I will never put myself in this position again“- did you make a plan in regard to HOW to make sure that it does not happen again, particularly in circumstances where alcohol is involved?

In general, if (1) you are honest with yourself about what happened with the guy and about your relationship with your partner, and (2) you are no longer in any contact with the other guy, and (3) you have a plan in regard to how to deal with potential future circumstances involving alcohol and guys=>then there is no benefit in telling your partner about the incident.

“How do I let go of these feelings and move on from this terrible mistake?“- “terrible” is a strong word: what made the incident terrible?

anita