Dear Caroline:

“that really changes my whole perspective and thinking about this“- good thing! Unfortunately, old perspectives and old thinking are remarkably persistent because they are habitual: you are in the habit (a mental habit) of thinking in certain ways. Therefore, your old thinking will not disappear just because new thinking appeared. When you encounter certain distressing real life circumstances, the old thinking will automatically return. You will have to repeat the new perspective and new thinking until these become your new habit.

“For years I was blaming myself for wasting time and not being creative“- and all these years you were not guilty.

“Anita, you write it all so easily…. simple and true. I wish I could do the same“- it’s been a while since I dedicated myself to simple and true thinking, ever since I read about and started Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which is about changing untrue- and complicated thinking=> true and simple thinking. I am getting better at it and so are you!

“I will be more kind to myself“- please do, you deserve kindness, I know that you deserve kindness!

anita