Dear Katrine Nielsen:

“I’m not sure what I did wrong“- you did nothing wrong to me, and nothing wrong to anyone in the context of your thread!

“I talk a lot because it relieves me of stress but I know people don’t really want to hear someone go over the same thing over and over again. If I talk too much let me know“- relieving stress by repeating yourself over and over again, here on your thread, is not wrong. And like I suggested, you are welcome to repeat yourself on your thread as much and as often as you would like.

“Hi Anita, Your posts are of meaning to me“- I can see that when you receive a reply, you get the chance to repeat yourself, and repeating yourself  has meaning to you (it relieves your stress, like you said). But as far as the content of the long post I sent you yesterday (and posts earlier), none of it led to you form new thoughts and consider and explore new ideas. All you did in response to my reply was… to repeat yourself:  “Hi Anita… I only told one of the boys and the two girls that I like him…  They then said that it’s because he likes me… not picking up on him trying to get me to eat at a Turkish restaurant”, etc.

The reason I felt disappointed when I received your response to my long post of yesterday was that I had an expectation that you will respond to some of the content of my post by considering something new, and you didn’t. It is not wrong for you to not consider something new. It is just that my motivation is different from yours: yours is to repeat; mine is to explore, to learn something new and to understand better.

I don’t blame you for not considering new ideas about/ exploring how your mind works and how you can live life differently. It is way easier (no anxiety involved) for a replying member- such as me- to consider new/ challenging ideas about someone else’s mind and life (the OP’s) than it is to consider new/ challenging ideas about my own mind and my own life. (I am making more and more of an effort to share and explore new ideas about myself and my life in the context of communicating with original posters, so to make it fair).

Katrine- please do post again anytime, at any length: express yourself, repeat. I will not offer you any more insight, analyses (and in so doing repeat myself), but if you would like me to, I will be glad to reply with a sentence or two, just so to encourage you to post again and again (please let me know if you would like this; otherwise, I will not).

anita