Dear Lindsay:

The lyrics of the song Torn Between Two Lovers comes to my mind.

She is going through a divorce, so I can see why he would want to support her, since she was his friend (before being more than a friend) while he had marriage problems. I can also understand somewhat his torn-between-two-lovers quandary: It can happen to a decent person. But it can’t possibly be convenient for you, therefore, I feel badly about you being in this situation.

You asked in your original post: “My ultimate questions is, Am I unreasonable for thinking that the man deserves the chance to work this out?“- no, I don’t think that you are unreasonable. But it will take some heavy duty strength on your part, depending how long his indecision will last, to endure this… and that’s my concern: I wouldn’t like you to end up drained and a mess waiting for him to decide. You and your children need you to be strong!

anita