Dear Anita,

Thanks for your kind response.

Paying for therapy or for that matter covering any other big expense is not a problem for me, it is the least help I could do. Even educated People in my region are not aware of what therapy is nor in a state to be convinced that therapy can make a huge positive impact. I myself never cared to know about it when my girlfriend suggested it to me in the past. So it is very difficult to make my wife understand that she came from a very conventional family. Yes, things like therapy are unknown to many(eve if we live outside Asia)

“How do I make her understand that unrequited love/interest is not good for her or me in the long term and that we should get separated as one year is enough time for me to try and fail to get feelings for her?…I’m looking to see how I can make her understand the importance of her own life“-

My intention behind this is to see the possibility of helping her mind rather than just ‘paying’ for a treatment that is very easy and small thing to do for me. Also, one reason is that she thinks breaking the marriage means an end to her life which is not the case. The marriage we are talking about here is only a celebration/tradition a year ago and living together under one roof talking like friends/roommates. She may be feeling dependent on me and scared to let go of the marriage due to various stigma factors and fears of facing life alone. She also says she loves me and that the marriage should not break at any cost. The marriage is just in papers. While I do understand her emotions I cannot accept that form of love neither in a state to continue doing this mistake of not being able to reciprocate any feelings.

I wish she understands this but as you said I may not be the right person to make her understand, however, turns out I’m the only persons she is interested to talk to and she keeps requesting love.

Regd my screenname, yes I need to heal a lot and I also regret the fact it is my mistake to agree to marriage before healing /handling myself thinking that time will suppress my sadness that evolved from unmet expectations of my life.

I do want to help her but that’s definitely not with my love which doesn’t exist in the first place.

I’m open to any other suggestions.