Dear Lost1Flow:

I relate to you not having your own life to live, but instead, living for the sake of someone else’s life and doing so because of guilt. You used the word Lost, in your screen name. I used to think of my life  as Stolen: stolen by guilt, guilt perpetuated by my mother. She robbed me of my life and the weapon she used in the robbery was Guilt. Guilt with a capital G. The ways that my mother instilled this Guilt in me were probably different from the ways your mother did, and my mother’s motivation was probably different from yours. But the result is the same: lost/ stolen lives, to a large extent.

If you look at the bigger picture of your circumstances, there are 4 people involved: an old, disabled elderly woman, an ailing middle-aged man, a suffering middle-aged woman, and a suffering younger woman (30). Who is the Winner in this picture?

I am asking because I want to have a conversation with you, Lost1Flow- hoping that a conversation will help you find a way to move forward from this very difficult dilemma.

anita