Dear Farnaz:

You are welcome and thank you for being honest with me. You shared, paraphrased that two days ago you were angry (but not at me) when I brought up the topic of new year resolutions because it reminded you of your past failed new year resolutions, and you shared that you were angry at me in regard to the doctor we’ve been discussing:

“I got annoyed when you told me saying to the doctor that his mom is a wh*** wouldn’t be helping him, it angered me that you think I should help him when he basically kicked me when I was down”-

-I have to correct your misunderstanding here, and you can re-read my previous writing on the matter and see for yourself: I did not suggest that you should help him, but that you could have helped- maybe- the next woman available to him-by not calling his mother a wh***, and instead by expressing your valid hurt and anger otherwise. When you called his mother a wh***, the most you achieved was to harden his heart further, making him despise women even more. If you told him how very wrong his behaviors were (listing those behaviors clearly)  because of how they made you feel, maybe.. just maybe he’d behave differently in the future, for the sake of other people with whom he will be interacting.

I better stop here to get your reaction to what I wrote here before I reply to the rest of your post.

anita