Dear Ashley:

You shared that your husband (let’s refer to him as H) had an affair with his co-worker (let’s refer to her as W). You found out about it in June 2021, separated (but not divorced) in Sept 2021. W gave birth to H’s son sometime later on, and in Nov 2022, the two of you confessed your love for each other, H apologized for the affair profusely and expressed regret that it ever happened (except that he does not regret having his son)

“I’ve always had trust issues with people..  I’m trying to move on from the past and get on with my life but… I always assume the worst now. I would like any tips to help restore my trust in him and stop myself from thinking so negatively about everything. Thanks in advance!“-

– You are welcome. You had trust issues and expected the worst before you met him, but it doesn’t mean that H is worthy of your trust, and that things are likely to turn out well once you live together again. You wrote that “things were terrible” between the two of you around the time he had the affair, can you share more about it (I am asking because I want to learn about his trustworthiness or lack of)?

anita