Dear Victoria:

You are welcome. “I do feel that these concerns/flaws are valid“- I am sure that your concerns are valid, that is, that the friends you have and had are flawed. I am sure because humanity really is flawed, deeply flawed, and these deep flaws are the reason why the world is in the bad shape it is in (escalating climate change, extreme politics, wars and crime).

You asked in your original post,  “Should I just drop everyone? Or give them more grace?“-I would drop those who crossed a line of no return, such as having committed unconscionable crimes against other, but I wouldn’t drop those who entertain or entertained some of the thoughts and emotions that led others to their crimes because.. almost every single person entertain such thoughts and emotions.

For example, although I am half North African with a mother with darker skin, I was taught primarily by her that people with darker skin are inferior, and although I don’t remember, I bet I expressed that belief before I started changing it. Should I have been dropped by everyone because of beliefs I didn’t choose, beliefs that led some to commit terrible crimes?

anita