Dear Laine:

I read your second post but I want to re-read both posts (and anything you may add before I return to the computer)  Friday morning when I feel more focused. For now, what crossed my mind when I read: “I don’t understand why or how my parents’ relationship toward me created insecure attachment, but it did”- what crossed my mind was that your experience with your parents when you were 4, 5, 6.. (your first decade of your life), was different from the totality of your 3 decades experience with them which you remember now, in the present time . Now, you have memories from your teenage years,  20s, 30s (I am guessing you are in your 30s..), but back then, in your first decade of life, your experience was raw enough, severe enough to cause your insecure attachment style. I will be back to you in the morning.

anita