Dear Mina:

Your fighting will be worth it if you fight smart. Your situation reminds me of the title of a movie: “Living with the Enemy”. I identified with the title at the time because I used to live with my own personal enemy: my mother. It is difficult to think of one’s own mother as an enemy, but in practice- this is exactly what my mother has been to me.

And so, when I say that your fighting will be worth it if you fight smart, I mean that the first part of your fighting has to be to find a way to live far aware from your personal enemy: the woman who mocks you and who is making and keeping you sick. Once you find that way, you need to never go back to her again. And because your parents support each other in the ways they treat you (notice the title of this thread, “Bad parents“), you will need to have no contact with the two of them.

If, on the other hand, you fight for yourself but stay living-with-the-enemy, then.. your fighting will be useless, wouldn’t it?

anita