Helcat, I am trying to fully accept that he didn’t tell me so he wouldn’t lose me / hurt me. But I am an open and honest person and if roles were reversed I would have told him when he asked the first time. He had no plans to tell me, I basically gave him an ultimatum because I knew he was not telling me the truth, and that’s when he told me. Our relationship before this had come out was going great, I trusted him. I agree with your advice, to try and approach him with a less direct approach, he has told me he does not want to speak about it anymore and will not answer anymore questions. This makes me scared he’s still hiding something and that’s why he is being so dismissive. I just want to believe that this wouldn’t lead to more lies in future, and that I can eventually get over it and move on. I just don’t know how to quiet my mind and feel like talking to him is the only way but I just feel like I can’t, without a fight starting. I appreciate your example and when I do talk to him I am going to use that approach, thank you! I just feel like the only way I can move on from this is to talk it through with him eventually.