Hi Lily

I’m glad that you’re going to do your best to respect his boundaries. It really is the only healthy way things move forward in your relationship. It’s equally important that your feelings are still acknowledged and heard.

Have you had any bad experiences where people have lied to you in the past?

I’m sorry that your partner lied and it took an ultimatum for your partner to be honest with you. As someone who values honesty, do you feel like that is more hurtful than what happened while you were both on a break?

In a perfect world. How would you want your partner to respond to you about this issue? What would actually help you rebuild trust and recover from this?