Dear Gay:

You shared that you (43, divorced following an abusive marriage, living outside of India) met this man (42, has been going through a divorce in the last 9 years, lives in India) on a matrimonial site, but never in-person, nor did you have a single video call with him. The extent of the communication was online, through text for 11 months, plus a few phone calls. Yet he proposed marriage to you and you agreed.

You did a pre-matrimonial check on him, and he told you that he thinks that you are “stalking and spying on him” and ended contact with you.

“It pains me a lot… Please suggest me what should I do?“- I am sorry that you are in pain and I hope that you will feel better very soon. My comments on what you shared and questions, if I may: (1) He proposed marriage to you, but he is a married man still. A marriage proposal is valid only if the man is not married, isn’t it? (2) Seems like you got very emotionally attached to him: what about the online/ text communication with him got you so attached?

anita