Dear Palegazesunnidays:

Of course I don’t mind you sharing this with me: I am glad that you do, you just made me day with your latest sharing! And.. I am proud of you too for taking these small, yet big steps (no step is small when it leads you in the right direction): congratulations for the steps you took most recently!

When I read this: “I’ve also been looking at, and trying to work out what my values or principles are as that’s not something I’ve really considered before and an article I read mentioned things feeling out of kilter when you’re not living by your values. I guessed that my anger etc. has also been trying to tell me that I’m not living in tune with values which I’ve possibly repressed??”, I immediately remembered that I did work on values and principles in therapy more than a decade ago. It was part of DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy), I remembered worksheets my therapist at the time gave me to fill in as part of my homework assignment. I still have them.

If you go to dialectical behavioral therapy. com/ distress tolerance/ actions based on values, you will get a sense of what I am referring to. I can look for the paper worksheets that I still have, if you would like me to, tomorrow morning (in about 20 hours from now). Let me know, and I will find them and share them with you in the morning.

anita