Hi Saggad

We all make mistakes, especially when we’re young. I know I did. It hurts so much when you first learn that there are people like that in the world. Fortunately, there are good people in the world too. Having good experiences will help you learn to develop trust in others again.

A therapist taught me to identify unhealthy relationships. I understand that you haven’t found therapy helpful though.

Based on what you said, I think you already know how to identify difficulties. The question is why do you think you stayed in that relationship even though you knew it was unhealthy? Perhaps you need to trust your instincts when you notice problems?

There is a saying that helped me, “When someone shows you who they are listen.”

You have a very kind nature and bad people will use that against you to help themselves and in the process harm you.

Taking small steps when trusting people has been helpful for me. If they prove trustworthy, I can take another step and so on and so forth. If they prove untrustworthy, I step back.

My therapist always said that anger is a good thing. It let’s you know when your boundaries have been overstepped. Stealing someone’s house is unthinkable. You have every right to be angry. I can’t imagine how much pain that woman put you through.

These feelings will pass in time as you heal and process the trauma. It really is a severe trauma. It would actually be strange if you weren’t angry and hurt because of this situation. I know it’s painful, but it is an expected emotional response to such a devastating situation.

Please be patient with yourself and your emotions. Do your best to take care of yourself and your needs. Be extra kind to yourself while you hurt over this.