I mean other than kind of shifting the blame.  I don’t really use offensive words to get my point across.  I get emotional but I have no reason to be crass or vulgar. I imagine she utilized the fact I messaged her several times.  She exercised the flight mechanic and had someone else make it there problem.  She has played the victim a lot.  So it’s probably an easy part to play.

You are right though we do pass on some of our recycled baggage onto others after a relationship.  Sometimes without even knowing we are doing it.

Thank you for support and also making things clearer in my head. Its nice to have someone else’s perspective.