Hi Grace, Oh my god! I’ve been in a similar (Although less deep) situation. he moved across the world for a year.

So I can very much understand you.

3 months is a short amount of time especially if you were so brilliant together in person. You will definitely still feel horrible at the moment, it is such a change! talking over message and call is hard,  its okay!

BUT, if you both work for it, it WILL WORK! if one of you gives up or doesnt think its gonna work, you may well struggle. perseverance is key!! after you acclimatise to the distance, it really does become easier. the initial shock is what makes it seem so horrible i think.

The main question is, are you prepared to wait for him? (i was, but he wasnt so you must both be on board) and again, its totally acceptable for this to change. if his actions are positive as they so far seem to be from this post then i feel that its worth considering to wait it out. seems to me that you care a lot for each other. consider being kind to yourself but also thinking of the bigger picture.

Something i was told was  ‘its one year vs the rest of your life’

If you both really want to, you will be absolutely fine!  its okay to need a break to think about it though. Its rough! but once you ride out the really tricky part (the first 6ish months) you’ll find the sailing to be a little smoother, still sad at times, but you will be okay. Stay Hopeful!

– Renn x