Hi Anita,

So you are basically saying that this is normal when dealing with a person who has BPD? She keeps saying that she is open for change in the relationship, but I don’t know what to do then. I have researched how to deal with someone who has BPD, and It has given me hope but it still seems difficult to see the future with her. I think it would be difficult to obtain the relationship. I wanted to hear your opinion on the back and fourth me and Roberta have had. It kinda ties back to what I have said before about the fact that im not feeling like myself and that I have lost myself. I have read that in order to be with someone who has BPD, I have to love myself first. I don’t even have a life of my own, so I don’t love myself at all.