Hi John

I’m sorry to hear that you’re also going through some things in your personal life.

Your words are very touching and reflect the work you’ve been doing on yourself. Well done!

Where do you think these feelings of impatience are coming from and the same question for the feelings you had before that led to you initially rushing the relationship?

You have a very balanced  but optimistic perspective on the relationship now.

You mentioned that the relationship means a great deal to you. Would you care to elaborate on that?

I think impatience can have different causes. So what suits one person, may not suit another.

For example, I was reading for myself about how to deal with frustration more effectively and there was a suggestion about using humour to exaggerate my feelings.

So for example, I was frustrated because I felt lonely in the past week while my husband was ill and I was looking after our son. There can be a root belief that discomfort shouldn’t happen or my feelings are important. So using humour and exaggeration would be…

A documentary about being the only person in the world that has ever had to take care of sick relatives. That documentary winning an Oscar and personally winning a medal.

Or…

Imagining that because my husband couldn’t speak very much that it was like living alone in an Antarctic research station with just myself for company and nothing but snow for miles around.

Or

That my husband must lavish me with praise and attention 24/7 or the world will literally end.

I found the exercise quite entertaining and encourages a more balanced perspective.

Wishing you all the best! 🙏❤️