<p class=”p1″>I did mention that we need to take a closer look at our conflict resolution as I feel like sometimes there’s lingering tension. So I’m hoping we can work through that together. </p>
<p class=”p1″>Yes you are right, timing was wrong here. I wish it clicked in my brain prior to me mentioning anything, I’m not sure why I focus so much on wanting to resolve the tension between us first. I’m someone who hates conflicts and I get very uneasy when I know someone is hurting because of me so my immediate response is to always hash things out. Had I known that I shouldn’t have focused on this, believe me I wouldn’t have. I’m not sure why I’m always so focused on the wrong feelings here 🙁 </p>
<p class=”p1″>I did understand where he came from and he has a valid point. I should have been there for him regardless of the tension between us or not. It just sucks because I feel like he shut down and we haven’t spoken in days. I know he asked for space but I just feel more alone and isolated. </p>
<p class=”p1″>I just feel like although he has valid reasons for being upset, it’s not like I was intentionally dismissing his important day and feelings. I was still trying to figure out what was wrong between us and wanted to work things through. But it feels like it’s all my fault. </p>
<p class=”p1″>The fight we had was about surprises and gift giving. He kept saying he did not know what I wanted as a gift and that I never tell him anything which was incorrect. There are a few things I wanted and I shared that with him multiple times so when he told me I never tell him anything I became a bit frustrated because to me it felt like he was not listening to what I was saying all those times of me saying I want something. That is what started the argument between us. It turns out he was only saying that to throw me off but I wasn’t aware of that. </p>
<p class=”p1″>I’m not entirely sure what I can do besides wait until he feels ready to reach out. Apart of me feels very isolated and disconnected from him and it’s hard going through this.</p>