Hi Lulu

Wow, no wonder you are feeling burnt out. You have been through so much at such a young age.

I’m deeply sorry to hear about your experiences of SA and your father questioning you about that, as well as the resulting trauma.

I’m sorry to hear about the difficulties with your father over the years.

I’m sorry to hear that your sibling has a difficult kind of cancer. This is horrible for the whole family in a variety of different ways. I hear that it is difficult for other siblings who aren’t given the same level of care as the ill one in this situation.

I’m sorry to hear that you weren’t accepted for your pick of school and that you didn’t get the opportunity to resit your SATs to accurately reflect your ability.

I’m glad to hear that you have a therapist, though it would be great if he could return from vacation soon. I think you’re being very resourceful seeking out people to speak to in his absence.

I would like to reassure you that your circumstances do not detract from who you are. You and your abilities shine through and I don’t think that it is pity that got you accepted at a school like that. You come across as a high performer who has been through some pretty devastating circumstances.

Another difficulty is that your sibling’s health issues are ongoing. Do you think this will have an impact on your schooling? Where will you live if your mother and sibling are moving?

You’re a very resilient person to have been through so much. I think it would be a good idea to be gentle with yourself while you are struggling. You have tried so hard and been through so much! It’s incredible. You are allowed to struggle with such difficulties. Anyone would, no matter how strong they are.

Wishing you all the best! ❤️🙏