Hi Nycartist

Quite often people misattribute being friendly for being flirty. It’s not uncommon for people in happy relationships to be flirty as a joke either as they feel secure in their relationships they don’t see it as true flirting where there would be a sexual interest.

I don’t think that your friend calling you flirty is a bad thing. Has she said anything else judgemental recently? You mentioned that there used to be issues between you both, could it be that you are worrying about those issues cropping up between you again?

Are you assuming that your friend isn’t being supportive? Or did she say something to suggest otherwise?

My husband is flirty without realizing it. Sometimes my sister and I tease him lightly about it and we all laugh together. Sometimes these comments are banter and jokes as opposed to serious?

I definitely think it’s possible to have relationships which aren’t judgemental and are loving and supportive. The trick is meeting kind people with good communication skills.

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏