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[quote quote=432742]discomfort with everything. I would think of it in this way. She was sexually assaulted as a child. It is common for sexual a[/quote]
First of all I want to say how thankful I am to have found this site and all of you lovely people. The experience and the tone of all responses is so wonderful and knowledgable.
Now about your response for me to assume that she was sexually assaulted as a child. Unfortunately, she has told me that she used to be hyper sexed from age 8 and looking at porn magazines and at 14 she decided to do it with someone she was in love with. There was no looking back and she has been very active since. Now, if she looks back in regret or discomfort at her past; I can empathize. I do feel terrible that for some reason she had this sexual power over her that consumed her thru her life. But the way she talks about her past is very different. She is grateful and takes pride in all her experiences. I don’t mind that either. Well she prioritized sex over everything in her life for 4 decades and I’m glad she’s happy that it was worth it. I just find it impossible to deal with when she talks about it after being with me for 7 months. If she’s trying to tell me something, she should be direct. Now I just imagine her going thru hundreds of men having wild sex and here I am wanting to build a complete relationship with her but I feel like I don’t stand a chance. It’s the disrespect and deliberate attempt to hurt me that I can’t get past. At times, she’s said she doesn’t want to be consumed by that anymore and I understand it. So why keep talking about it? I’m here. Please try to have some great sex with me because you still very much enjoy it. And stop talking about your past and respect my boundaries.