On the subject of modern dating practices, people often try out relationships before going official. If they don’t directly ask it isn’t official. Quite often people will ask for you to be exclusive while trying things out. So you mistakenly saw things as official because he suggested it may head that way in the future.

What is the difference between official and not? Honestly, not much. A relationship is a relationship is a relationship. Not being official means that they are not interested in the bare minimum level of commitment. Dating sucks and being new to relationships you were taken advantage of. A half decent person would have gone official first before taking your virginity. So you aren’t missing much as he doesn’t have common decency.

Please do more do protect yourself in the future. You deserve better than someone who isn’t willing to make a minimal level of commitment.