Hi

I note Tommy’s comment above- unless you are forced to live in a traditional society it isn’t generally viewed as a man’s role to ‘provide’. (I’m nearly 60, a doctor and in the UK). Money is important to survive, but evidence suggests that above a certain level it doesn’t bring more happiness.

Values are crucial in any relationship, whether intimate or not.
Jealousy means the man views you as his and is concerned that he is not good enough to keep you. Fair enough if you start spending masses of time with an interested special other, but a red flag otherwise.
‘Stroppy’ and ‘judgemental’ – sounds like he has a lot of work to do on maturing (and that isn’t necessarily an age thing!)
You know that you can’t change him and it doesn’t sound as though he’s prepared to do the work on his issues.
Move on, work on developing yourself in line with your values and that will attract the sort of people who deserve to be with you in mature, trusting relationships.
Sending a hug.
Rosie