Hi Anita!

It truly means so much, the time you (and others) who take time out of their day to help others going through a hard time. I appreciate it so much.

You have put things in perspective, you pull from my ramblings and see what is going on, what went on. Thank you for seeing I was not crazy.

I don’t believe he had a guilty conscience about anything he did.  Each breakup prior to the last, there were financial obligations he made and left me to figure them out. This last was the worst, making less money. Though ultimately my decision to change jobs (I was very unhappy where I was), he was instrumental in the decision.  Being remote, we could work anywhere, go away for the winter, yada, yada  he has a cushy job which allowed him to do the same.  But I am happy with my job and I’ve had a few raises, so I am ok now, but I wasn’t for a while.

I would agree with your “dominant” attitude comment.  I’d say today, looking back, he was manipulative and controlling.  It was all so subtle, slow-like.

I find what you shared about the book very enlightening, very relatable.  I am going to look it up.  Ironically, when he dumped me 2 years ago, the last thing I said to him was, you are an evil human.

again, and again, thank you!

Debs